Feel uncomfortable with video calls

[Gooner_87]

I've got a dilemma, its a workmates birthday on Saturday and someone is arranging a zoom meeting for him to celebrate with all his mates both in and out of work. We will be given 15min time slots I don't want to let him down but I'm really not comfortable with video calls even though we obviously know each other and get on quite well I feel so uncomfortable about the thought of it and its putting me off the idea however I really don't want to let him down

 

[Catsmother]

Hi @Gooner_87
I know exactly how you feel, I hate video calls too. Can you just talk to him on the phone instead? I am sure if you explain to him why you don't like video calls he will understand.

 

[Gooner_87]

I might do that but I will feel bad and selfish even if I call him, don't want to let anyone down

 

[Catsmother]

I might do that but I will feel bad and selfish even if I call him, don't want to let anyone down

I honestly don't think it is being selfish. Do your mates know that you have anxiety?

 

[Gooner_87]

I honestly don't think it is being selfish. Do your mates know that you have anxiety?

They know I struggle with my MH but they don't know I'm not comfortable with video calls

 

[Catsmother]

They know I struggle with my MH but they don't know I'm not comfortable with video calls

I think they will understand then. You're a good guy and you sound very thoughtful.

 

[Gooner_87]

I think they will understand then. You're a good guy and you sound very thoughtful.

Thank you @Catsmother

 

[mist]

No such effort was made when it was my birthday

 

[Gooner_87]

Sorry to hear that @mist

 

[mist]

Sorry to hear the @mist

It’s fine, I hate them all anyway

 

[LittleTooMuch]

I will remember this for my birthday ......