I suffer from noise anxiety. It most likely stems from the 12 months of noise that I was tortured with from thugs that moved next door to me and had amps and mikes through which they rapped almost 24/7. It took me a long while, but they were eventually evicted when Environmental Health were satisfied they were 100% anti-social and despite warnings and court orders being issued against them, they ignored them, and suffered the consequences as a result. However, their invasion of my personal space left me suffering from noise anxiety. Now, whenever there is unexpected or sustained noise that is out of the ordinary, I get hit with this again.
It happened again to me last week when my upstairs neighbour had her family and grandkids visiting. They were shouting, screaming, banging on the doors, floor and radiators and the four adults did nothing to curtail the noise. When I confronted the neighbour on the Monday to express my concerns I was greeted with "You're the worst neighbour I've ever had" and then she stormed off muttering "I'm moving". Now, don't think me unreasonable because I know kids make a noise when they're playing, but this went on for 7 hours and my personal space was contaminated with their noise. I couldn't go out because it was throwing it down with rain, and even if it wasn't, why should I be chased from my home because of inconsiderate people.
When I checked in with our housing officer, I was told that it's in all of our tenancy agreements that we are responsible for any visitors and to ensure that they do not cause undue disturbance to other residents. I would happily point this out to my neighbour, but she won't engage with me. It's OK for her and her family to disrupt my life, but I'm not permitted to make any comment on it.
The place where I live BTW is for older people (you have to be over 55) with mainly occupancy for single people; there are a couple of flats for two but rarely are they occupied by two people. Basically, it's a retirement community.
I've had no disturbing noise since that incident, so I'm hoping my neighbour realises how foolishly she reacted and that we can move forward positively, but I'm not holding my breath. Some people just think the world revolves around them, and them only.
It happened again to me last week when my upstairs neighbour had her family and grandkids visiting. They were shouting, screaming, banging on the doors, floor and radiators and the four adults did nothing to curtail the noise. When I confronted the neighbour on the Monday to express my concerns I was greeted with "You're the worst neighbour I've ever had" and then she stormed off muttering "I'm moving". Now, don't think me unreasonable because I know kids make a noise when they're playing, but this went on for 7 hours and my personal space was contaminated with their noise. I couldn't go out because it was throwing it down with rain, and even if it wasn't, why should I be chased from my home because of inconsiderate people.
When I checked in with our housing officer, I was told that it's in all of our tenancy agreements that we are responsible for any visitors and to ensure that they do not cause undue disturbance to other residents. I would happily point this out to my neighbour, but she won't engage with me. It's OK for her and her family to disrupt my life, but I'm not permitted to make any comment on it.
The place where I live BTW is for older people (you have to be over 55) with mainly occupancy for single people; there are a couple of flats for two but rarely are they occupied by two people. Basically, it's a retirement community.
I've had no disturbing noise since that incident, so I'm hoping my neighbour realises how foolishly she reacted and that we can move forward positively, but I'm not holding my breath. Some people just think the world revolves around them, and them only.