Hi my names Ian I'm a 44 year old dad of 4 beautiful boys, who are my life.
Where to start! I guess my mental health started in my early years at school and hasn't really ever gone. Although I was never actually diagnosed back then.To cut a long story short I have been in and out of hospitals throughout my life, with my first operation at the age of 4. I never really ever felt like I belonged and I spent most of my school life being bullied, as was always in and out of hospitals. I have an ileostomy, which I've had since the age of around 7 or 8,due to a fairly straight forward operation gone wrong by an incompetent doctor. Never got any compensation back then either for what he has done to me.
I have always had a low self-esteem and and have struggled with my confidence Issues due to this. When at the age of 27 I got married and 3 years later became a dad to a beautiful boy. I was so happy and then i became a dad again 2 years later with another boy. But in 2008 my world came crashing down when my wife decided to have an affair and we seperated shortly after with her new fella moving in our marital home 3 days later! Life couldn't get any worse for me!
Fast forward 5 years of being single and I got remarried again to Jenny. We have 2 boys 6 and 2 who are my life,my absolute world.
Now after 7 years of marriage with Jen, history is repeating itself all over again. I find myself going through a seperation once more and I just cant get my head around it. I have been struggling since I was furloughed back in March and recently saw my gp who diagnosed me with depression, well at least I think that was his diagnosis, as he was very quick to offer me tablets. I have a telephone appointment in November with a therapist from healthy minds, as I self referred after my mum thought I wasn't coping well.
I have good and bad days and could use a few friends right now, who are going through similar.
If you managed to get to the end, thank you for listening.
Where to start! I guess my mental health started in my early years at school and hasn't really ever gone. Although I was never actually diagnosed back then.To cut a long story short I have been in and out of hospitals throughout my life, with my first operation at the age of 4. I never really ever felt like I belonged and I spent most of my school life being bullied, as was always in and out of hospitals. I have an ileostomy, which I've had since the age of around 7 or 8,due to a fairly straight forward operation gone wrong by an incompetent doctor. Never got any compensation back then either for what he has done to me.
I have always had a low self-esteem and and have struggled with my confidence Issues due to this. When at the age of 27 I got married and 3 years later became a dad to a beautiful boy. I was so happy and then i became a dad again 2 years later with another boy. But in 2008 my world came crashing down when my wife decided to have an affair and we seperated shortly after with her new fella moving in our marital home 3 days later! Life couldn't get any worse for me!
Fast forward 5 years of being single and I got remarried again to Jenny. We have 2 boys 6 and 2 who are my life,my absolute world.
Now after 7 years of marriage with Jen, history is repeating itself all over again. I find myself going through a seperation once more and I just cant get my head around it. I have been struggling since I was furloughed back in March and recently saw my gp who diagnosed me with depression, well at least I think that was his diagnosis, as he was very quick to offer me tablets. I have a telephone appointment in November with a therapist from healthy minds, as I self referred after my mum thought I wasn't coping well.
I have good and bad days and could use a few friends right now, who are going through similar.
If you managed to get to the end, thank you for listening.
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