Practicing Patience Is An Important Technique For People With Borderline Personality Disorder


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How many times have you been standing on line in the grocery store waiting for the cashier to just hurry up with the person in front of you already! Why is she going so slowly? Doesn't she know you are already late? Well, of course not. How could she know? So you stand there, doing a slow burn simmering as yu wait for her to check one more price.

This is one of the biggest problems for people who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They want action and answers and they want them NOW. Waiting is not their long suit. But if you step back and take a look at the situation, it is easier to see what is going on.

People with BPD often want instant gratification whether that be in a romantic relationship, between a mother and a child or between a hapless clerk in the supermarket. In many cases, it is what drives us to erupt into a flurry of uncontrollable rage.At the risk of incurring your wrath, I challenge you to stop and do a breathing exercise when you feel like you are about to blow. It will slow your heart rate down and give you a moment or two to regain your composure. Ask yourself, "Is this something I am going to care about in six month?" If the answer is no, then allow the stressor to drift away. You will feel so much better.

Practicing Patience is not complicated

Practicing patience means more than just taking a deep breath and counting to ten. It means looking outside of yourself and assessing the situation in a way that does not relate to yourself. It means doing something over and over again until it is right. It means repeating what you just said to your husband a hundred times until he finally hears what you are saying. Learning to be patient means learning to put your desire for instant gratification on hold while you wait for something you need or want.

Practicing patience with children is especially difficult and that often requires counting to ten but it can be achieved in other ways as well.

Slow down and remove as many stressors from your life as possible

If you find yourself being generally impatient try removing as many external stressors in your life as possible. Slow down and try not to be ruled by your wristwatch for a day, if possible. Weigh and measure your words carefully before speaking them. This will go a long way toward giving you some time to reflect on your goals and how you want to go about achieving them.

There are many benefits derived from practicing patience. The most important benefit you will probably see right away is the way your blood pressure goes down. You will also see small improvements to your mental health. Studies have shown that patient people experience less depression and who wouldn't want that?

Being patient benefits others as well

Being a more patient person also benefits those around you. It makes you a better, more understanding friend and allows other people to relax when in your presence because you are more relaxed.

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