Feel No future for myself

[Amy78]

Hi Everyone, very low & just need to post this
Struggling with everything. I just feel like a complete failure & that I've no hope in the future. Just turned 32, never had a job. Still a Virgin. I'm here but don't feel like I'm alive if that makes sense

 

[lavalamp]

Hi Amy, sorry to hear you are feeling down. I was feeling like that myself last year. I've done a lot of work and had to take medication, but I'm feeling better.

Are you able to talk to anyone about how you are feeling? Maybe your doctor or a therapist.

You can always post on here if you need support. People are kind and always willing to help.

Sending hugs. x

 

[safeinsanity]

@Amy78 @mist

 

[PGen98]

Hi Everyone, very low & just need to post this
Struggling with everything. I just feel like a complete failure & that I've no hope in the future. Just turned 32, never had a job. Still a Virgin. I'm here but don't feel like I'm alive if that makes sense

Hi @Amy78, you've come to the right place!

We're a caring group of people who know very well about struggles and feeling down and depressed. Many of us have been where you are. Feel free to unload, get everything you're feeling out, because we absolutely understand here. I'm 33 and I'm also still a virgin (had relationships, one that went quite far physically, but it nearly broke me mentally), had one good job that I quit in order to become a caregiver to my mother (who is the reason I have issues with anxiety, depression, despair, self-hatred and my own masculinity), and I've been at the edge many times. I know how you feel, as do a good number of us here. Just know you're not alone, we're all here for you

 

[Gibby]

Hi and welcome, sorry you are feeling this way

 

[Amy78]

Thank you for your replies. I'm just feeling there needs to be a big change soon... It does feel like I'm buried

 

[Harry]

Hello. I would say you have a blessing in disguise. The current job market is work from home specific. Try and get into an online opportunity if possible. A lot of people with difficulties make use of work from home opportunities.

I am not sure what your skills are. But the only thing you need is YouTube to learn things. We could learn Arabic in 2 months, French in 3 and so on.

Once you get enough money, you will see that people would be very interested in being friends with you.

 

[madcap]

Struggling with everything. I just feel like a complete failure & that I've no hope in the future.

wasnt all that long ago a couple years at least that i had the very same thing its really painful but it can also be a motivator if you twist it around and apply it just hang in there and take what youre feeling and apply it to something maybe write songs or even a short story

 

[WhippedCream]

Has there been anything that has triggered these feelings at all? Perhaps something has happened (however small) and has made you feel this way? Hopefully there is someone you can speak to personally that will understand.

 

[Amy78]

I think I've just been looking for something to look forward to & maybe push myself to do something. I went paddleboarding recently something I've talked about for years but couldn't get out of my head. Didn't enjoy it at all! Self conscious etc. As regards my non existing live life. Had a huge crush on a guy but recently found out he has a gf.
Suppose at the end of the day I'm kind of ashamed of myself... For been a Virgin & never even kissed anyone

 

[PGen98]

I think I've just been looking for something to look forward to & maybe push myself to do something. I went paddleboarding recently something I've talked about for years but couldn't get out of my head. Didn't enjoy it at all! Self conscious etc. As regards my non existing live life. Had a huge crush on a guy but recently found out he has a gf.
Suppose at the end of the day I'm kind of ashamed of myself... For been a Virgin & never even kissed anyone

You don't ever need to be ashamed of that, I'm in exactly the same boat. It's hard to live with, it hurts to think about, but it's not a reflection on you, personally. It's something that will happen when it's meant to happen. It takes time and effort to get past the blockages that stop us from pursuing the things we want, but there's time to work on that. You can absolutely find someone and have a great partnership for life. Don't be in a rush to give yourself physically to someone just because you don't want to be a virgin, though, make sure you take the time to find the right person, let them know you want the real thing, not the one night fling. You'll get there!

 

[lavalamp]

I agree with what @PGen98 said. You have to give yourself time.

I could say I'm ashamed of myself too, as I got divorced earlier this year, but I've reaslised I have nothing to be ashamed of and neither do you.

I've kept working myself and tried to keep busy. Some days are still hard but I just try to keep going.

Are you able to talk to a therapist or your doctor about how you are feeling?

Sending hugs. xx

 

[Nomad]

I do not see any problem with being a virgin. You are 32 and you still do not have a job, now that's a problem because not having a job means you do not have an income source. If you do not have an income source, you will have difficulty living. Try to get a job, if you have a job, you might find someone in your workplace to start a relationship.